" First class " problem

been two months since that solemn day, when the euphoria of communion to the "adult" life engulf the school first-graders on the first line.Bouquets, donated the first teacher, withered, faded smile noticeably influenced by the reality of school life.We know something about you that everything will be easy.They knew so thoroughly prepared for school, hired tutors, attempting to "podstelit straw" to the child.

But such a "straw" makes only 10%.There is a category of children - with a scientific mind, we call them "nerds."Only those children suffer an adjustment period in the school with almost no problems.But how many of these children in the same class?One?Two?The rest of the show together a full range of adaptation issues.What is this set?

- fatigue;

- appetite loss;

- irritability;

- tearfulness;

- mood swings;

- serious problems with concentration;

- problems with posture (the child "suddenly" begin to slouch).

Of course, the list is far from all, and one of the parents may well add to it.Bu

t the totality of the problems can be expressed in just one word: reluctance.The child gradually accumulates reluctance to go to school, he resists so strongly changed conditions of life, and he fights with it as you can.What to do?

And where is the pleasure?

Educators and psychologists in one voice are advised to organize a clear mode of life and proper nutrition classmate.Ostensibly, this is an effective means of assistance for adaptation.But tell me, dear colleagues, the parents who helped this advice?I was with my first-graders did not help, and I have not met anyone who he helped.Next: psychologists strongly recommend replace watching TV and playing on the computer after school day sleep.It seems to be logical.

But what do we really?Not only is the baby loaded the most difficult schoolwork, so still and the familiar, favorite things deprived.Under the pretext of good health.Honestly, if you, an adult, so treated, what would you do?

When I realized it, it has found the key to solving the problems of adaptation of his first-grader.It is "fun" word.Exactly!The fact is that we are happy to do just that from which we get the pleasure, and this is especially true for children.When a child goes to the first class, all parents consciously or unconsciously start to panic.They are afraid that the baby can not cope, and deprive him of all the usual pleasures.It is necessary to comply with, it is necessary to achieve good grades, you have to absorb all of the items.We must-we must-it!And who should?Parents and teachers.Kids - do not.They do not understand yet why this is necessary.

But they are well aware that such a pleasure.And I did everything to teach her daughter to enjoy the learning process, generally dismiss this hideous word "must".

how it works, and what not to do?

To begin with, what else to do: do not hire private tutors.It does not solve the problem and increases the psychological burden - a kind of press under the title "In life nothing but a school."You yourself have to become a tutor, who never says the word "must", but it teaches the child to enjoy the mental activity, the fact that he knows how to set a goal and achieve it.From what he was really smart.

you say that this is only possible for a gifted child?This is not true.My daughter has dysgraphia, which could not cope speech therapists, after which I refused their services, and has itself become a tutor for her daughter.I realized that if I will teach my daughter for the sake of her teacher praised, "for the sake of the school," I've got nothing.And then I began to teach her for its own sake.We came because we worked together with her, and because I taught her to enjoy learning.Now she is completely self-study.

Do not deprive your child of habitual pleasure - it is the second important condition.Because from everything it looks as if he was punished for what he went to school.Let it be not so bleak.No matter how psychologists would put the child to sleep during the day, he did not fall asleep.Wants to watch TV - let it looks, but certainly not for a long time.The main task - to create a good mood for him, and support him in the process of doing homework.